After several years or months of blissful dating, it becomes essential to ask yourself if it high time to get married. You begin to wonder if you are ready to tie the knot. It seems natural to assume that every successful relationship should end up in marriage. Still, I tell you that marriage is not all it appears to be. You never know, at least fully well, what you are getting into.
Some years ago, I was faced with this problem with my girlfriend. We have dated for two years, and all seems to be going well. Yeah, I was in love (and still in love). She looked like the missing piece to my puzzle, “the special one.” Everybody around us wanted it to happen. I wanted it to happen too, but I wasn’t sure I was ready. It was the timing that bothered me. However, we eventually got married a year later, and we are still happily ever after.
Does it feel right? Nowadays, it’s all about how you feel. The general culture these days is to get married if it seems perfect. This might be an excellent way to avoid the indecisiveness that comes with this decision. Follow your heart, right? Let me blow your bubble a bit.
Research by Nick Wolfinger has shown that the best time to marry is between 28 years and 32 years. His study showed that people that get married in this age range tend to have longer marriages than everybody else in other age range. This seems logical considering that people in this age range are old enough to make the right choice. However, I disagree with this because I know some high school sweethearts who got married right out of college at a very young age with over twenty years of marriage (and still going strong).
These analogies beg the question, when is the best time to get married? Read on and you will get an answer, but if this article makes you nervous, click here and find 50 great sex quotes that will make you smile or laugh.
When is the right time to get married?
It used to be a simple question to answer. When you have acquired a home, university degree, a good job, and a certain level of financial independence, marriage come next. These days, you can’t work that way.
Any time above 25 years seems okay. Some several pointers and signs can help you decide if it is time to get married. You just have to pay attention to the signs.
Some of these signs or occurrences that can help you decide if its right to get married are:
- Total trust
- Deep relationship
- Long terms plans
- Friends and family
Walt Whitman once said, “I have learned that to be with those I like is enough.”
Are you contented with your girlfriend or boyfriend? Do you find yourself not looking for more, or are they everything you wanted in a partner plus extra? It is human nature always to seek improvement or upgrade to everything, be it our relationships, financial status, and maturity. Your relationship is no different. We keep trying to find better friends, a better partner, a better job, to mention a few.
Being content with your current partner might be a sign that you are ready to settle down. It might be time to stop exploring and just tie the knot.
Can you resist the urge to go through your partner’s phone when they are away? Do you have absolute trust in your partner? Or better still, do you trust your partner to cover your back?
Trust me; I know all about insecurity. Trust doesn’t come easy, even though absolute trust is the bedrock of every successful relationship. The best relationships are built on the foundations of trust and confidence.
Total trust in your partner might be a sign that you have found the one. A relationship where either partner finds it difficult to entirely and trust one another should not progress further. It might be wise to end it there. Don’t get married because you have been dating for a long time. Get married because you are contented with your partner, and know them beyond a reasonable doubt.
How tight are you? Can your partner accurately predict you? Can she read the subtle changes, the littlest shifts in your moods, and feelings? This seems like funny questions, but not all partners are the better half of the others, not to say, really that tight. The best romantic relationships have a sort of deep mental connection.
Like Juliet and Romeo, Bonnie, and Clyde, Barack and Michelle Obama, you are thinking alike and have similar views on things. You are willing to sacrifice your convenience for your partner’s benefit.
This might be some, if not all you need to know that he or she is the one.
Long term plans
Is he your long term plan? Do you picture your partner in your future?
The future awaits us, but today’s decisions have a significant impact on the unforeseeable future. If we see our partner with us, in the long run, it can help us decide whether it’s time to buy that wedding ring, and walk down the aisle.
Having similar views for the future can be very good for your relationship (or impending marriage if it works out).
Friends and family
Like it or not, your friends and family will pester you to find a good woman or man, and settle down (at least mine did). I was above 25 years and taking life slowly. My parents gave me the push I needed.
The moment your family starts disturbing you to get married, you know it might just be time. But, take things at your own pace.
Maybe you are too complacent; you want to chill, enjoy your youth, and relationship with your girl without taking things too seriously. It might be time to take your relationship to the next level.
Getting married is one of the most exciting moments in life. It is a time of youthful passions and new beginnings. When two people fall in love and eventually get married, the future seems bright, and you are filled with overwhelming joy.
All in all, it would help if you would wait until you are at least 25 years of age before you get married because, by that time, you are more mature to handle the ups and downs of marriage. But if love finds you before, make sure you can handle it before you make any serious commitment.
However, it is not a decision you should take without careful considerations. There are numerous factors to consider before you say ‘I do.’ The unfortunate idea is that most people jump into marriage without being ready or sure they want to spend the rest of their lives with their partner.
On a final note, whatever age you decide to get married, you should be ready. Do better be in haste to tie the knot! Congratulations in advance.