matter who they are, how old you are, or what kind of person you are. Everybody deals with the death of a loved one differently, but these tips will hopefully help you cope with the loss of one of your idols.
1. Make a list of all the things you loved about them.
This is a big one.
When people lose someone they love, often the first thing that comes to their mind is “What did I love about them?” or “How can I remember them?”.
You should make a list of everything you loved about the person. If you had more than one celebrity you looked up to, write down everything about them you loved.
It may be hard to focus, but if you have a journal handy, start writing about what made them special to you.
Don’t worry about spelling or grammar at this point. Right now the only thing that should matter is expressing yourself and how much they meant to you before it gets too late.
This will give you something tangible to look back on to remind you of the person you lost.
2. Watch their favorite movies, read their favorite books, or listen to their favorite music.
The next thing I recommend doing is watching one of your idol’s classic movies, reading one of their most popular novels, or listening to the albums they loved the most.
This will help you connect with the person in a way that’s more than just memories and pictures.
You can also watch interviews, documentaries or read autobiographies of your idol to get to know them better and understand why they were such an important part of your life.
3. Visit any place they went on vacation or lived in often.
If you have the time and means, I highly encourage flying to a place your idol often visited or lived in for a while.
“You can find a few places they frequently vacationed on websites like Viator.com, but if those are too far away from where you live, try visiting their hometowns or other cities/countries they frequented”, says Benjy Grinberg.
For example, if your idol was a musician who wrote most of their albums in Seattle, visiting the Space Needle would be an excellent way to pay homage and appreciate what made them great as a whole.
4. Express your feelings in a journal.
As I’ve mentioned before, it’s important at this time to express your feelings in a way that won’t come off as too insensitive.
Don’t feel pressured to talk about it with other people if you don’t want to write about what you love most about them in a journal or blog post to get the thoughts out of your head and heart.
However, if you feel comfortable enough to write a post or talk about it with friends and family, try to make it as honest as possible.
Be sure not to share how much they meant to you until the time is right, but sharing an experience you had together, a gift they gave you that made you smile, or a photo of you two can be a great way to honor them.
5. Create an online memorial page dedicated to them and share it with your friends so people can post memories and pictures of the person who died.
Creating a Facebook or Google Plus profile, blog page, social media account or even an entire website devoted to your idol is a wonderful way to pay tribute and remind yourself that you’re not alone.
The more you share, the more likely people will be to spread awareness about them and their work.
Even if it’s only a few fans who care enough to leave a comment or two, seeing how many lives they touched can make coping with their death much easier.
There are even some celebrities who keep their own social media profiles active after they die so fans can still talk about them.
For example, singer Whitney Houston had her Facebook account kept open for several months after she died with an image of a sunset as her profile picture to symbolize the time after she left us that will be remembered fondly.
6. Surround yourself with pictures of them.
Like their favorite music, watching a film, or reading a book that they loved will help you appreciate them on a deeper level and allow you to feel as though they’re still around.
If you keep photos of the two of you together close by at home, in your car, or at work, you’ll have an easier time coping with their death knowing that they’re still with you in some way.
“I recommend getting a really good photo of them—something meaningful to you—and framing it so that it becomes prominently displayed in your home”, said Grinberg.
Seeing on the news that one of your celebrity idols has passed away can be shocking and devastating.
These tips can help you come to terms with their death and cope when it feels impossible.